Do you have kids, or about to have kids, and live away from your family? My mom, dad, sister, and brother, are all my very best friends. I couldn't do life without them, and every day my heart hurts to see them more often. My husband and I live in Fort Lauderdale, and my family are all in Concord, NC.
Three years ago, my husband and I moved to Fort Lauderdale, FL. He got a job at Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale, and works in their worship department. He is apart of many different ministry opportunities, and really loves his job. The day we moved down, I had never been past Daytona Beach before on I-95. Once we got past this point, I lost it in my little civic. I was following Will, who was driving the moving truck, and my dad and brother were behind us, in Will's car. I was so frustrated, thinking "Where the heck is my husband moving us too? It's sooo far away!!" I was feeling completely overwhelmed and sad that I would be soo far away from my family. No more going over to mom and dad's house on the weekends. No more seeing my sister whenever I wanted, and stealing one of her kids to have a date with. It was an awful feeling.
We were staying in an apartment for a month, so we could have time to find a place to live. So, right when we got into town, we headed straight to the church to pick up the key. As soon as we pulled into the parking lot of the church, God gave me complete peace. I knew we were supposed to live here in that moment. I'm thankful for that feeling, because it literally got me through the next two years of living here.
Something else I learned through all of this, is to trust my husband. Will is the head of our family, and I have to trust that he is seeking God's will when it comes to where we need to be and what we need to be doing to glorify Him and Him alone. Will reminds me everyday, that we're ultimately here to bring glory to God and there's no need to ever worry, because He is always, always faithful!
I worked at a Starbucks in Fort Lauderdale for a few months, and then I got a job at the church as well. Will and I were so busy with work, we were enjoying are adventures together, and trying to get used to the culture shock of South Florida... We also have made life long friends down here. I don't know what we would have done without our church family. We love our church!
Never would I have thought that Will and I would have gotten pregnant last year, let alone with twins! I had never been more scared in my life. How were we going to afford it? We're all by ourselves?! How the heck are we going to survive? God has provided in miraculous ways. He has never failed us, not for one second. The babies were born, and we have survived for the past 8.5 months and the babies are thriving and very happy.
Being a mom is the hardest job in the world, and 10x more difficult when you're away from family. There's no one to just escape too. Sometimes you just want your parents... to be at their house. To have table talks in the kitchen. *sigh*
Side Note: And it's awful that we don't have seasons down here in South Florida. I seriously get depressed when October roles around and it's 90* outside. Blah!
The day my dad and brother had to head back to North Carolina to go home, my dad told me this, "Amber, we are going to be together for eternity. If God has called you and Will to be in South Florida, and if He is going to be glorified and people come to know the Lord because of that, than you need to be here. As hard as it's going to be, and as much as we are going to miss each other. Why would you want to move back to NC, if God's going to use you here?" With tears in my eyes, I said, "well... because you're not here."
When I'm feeling down, I always remember what he said, and I'm filled with overwhelming thankfulness that, yes, I will be with my wonderful family for eternity. What an amazing gift. As much as I miss my family everyday, Will and I have started our own adventure with our new family. We have decided to go wherever He leads. I have surrounded myself with an amazing church family. We have amazing family/friends that love us and our children and we couldn't be more thankful for them.
So, here we are, me, Will, Liam, and Lily... doing this thing called life, and doing our best to glorify our Savior while figuring it all out... If you're away from family, and feel discouraged, please know you're not alone. But if God has called you to where you are right now, there's no other place in the world you should be. It's a lesson we will be able to teach our children too, to remain flexible and willing to follow God's plan for them. Rest in the Lord's goodness, that He is faithful, and surround yourself with your new family.... sweet friends that you have met in your new home town.
This is my family... I love you all, and miss you everyday!! xoxo