When they measure themselves with themselves and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely. 2 Corinthians 10:12
You do it. I do it. We all do it.
The grass is always greener...
If only we had what they have...
Life would be better if________
Why does she have what I want, but I can't have?
It profits us nothing and amounts to a pile of wasted minutes when we compare and lust after what "she has, and I don't".
And now that we can readily see into the lives of those around us on Facebook and Instagram, it's like an encyclopedia of windows into others lives thrust into our coveting file.
If comparison and coveting was a social crime, I'd be on death row. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I've fallen into the trap of "she has it better".
"She cooks better than me.." "She dresses like she isn't a SAHM...how does she manage to look so perfect?" "Her kids are smarter, dress better, are involved in more activities, and are better behaved than mine" "If only I had her house, with her garden, and her beautiful decor" "If only I looked like that after having a baby" "Her and her husband constantly go on dates...(rolls eyes)
I could go on and on and on....
Ladies, mamas, when we constantly are swimming in the ocean of "I want her life" we do ourselves and our God an extreme disservice. We essentially are saying that God favors her over me, and that I am less than mediocre, I am or my life isn't up to a standard or level I probably am not meant to reach.
It's so easy, too easy in fact, to look at what others want us to perceive their lives to be. But I believe it's what we don't see that is the real truth of it all. All of us have struggles and it's easy to mask our struggles by posting only positive and perfection. What we encounter thru the screen of our devices, isn't the whole picture. The mom you may deem as "covet-worthy" may be struggling deeply with a secret sin or circumstance that, if revealed, may cause us to repent our Tenth Commandment blunder.
God has put you where you are, with the children that you have, in the home that you abide, with the resources He has graciously provided, during this time in history, for a purpose to glorify Him. There is no way you are to fulfill that purpose if you are constantly looking to the right or left desiring "this or that" from an unaware victim.
Look ahead. Keep your eyes on Him. Don't become distracted by what your life isn't and be thankful for what your life is. In the midst of extreme struggle, praise His Name. In the most joyful of times, praise His Name. In the cleaning, chaotic, disaster, grocery shopping, sloppy hair, overdue bills, haven't been out of the house in days times: praise Him still.
You are what He wants. Not you+a version of another mama. Just you. As you are. Always seeking to make Him smile. Even in your exhaustion and imperfection. Especially in your exhaustion and imperfection.
Really count your blessings. You have more than most.