Beyond the Love Language.

My love language is quality time and gifts. 

His is words of affirmation and acts of service. 

 

We clearly don't speak the same languages when it comes to love. 

 

People who practice love languages often speak of "love tanks". So, the premise is that when those who love you don't show you love the way you receive it (your love language), then your "love tank" will remain empty. 

An empty love tank can wreak havoc on even the most emotionally stable individual. 

 

But should we really only focus on those rare moments when the clouds divide and the sun shines blazing down on us in the form of a well-spoken language? 

 

My challenge to you, to mostly myself, is to use this coming year to pay attention to all of the ways that your spouse shows love to you.  

 

I found myself only focusing on the fact that my overworked husband spent more time talking on the phone doing service calls than he did speaking to me. I would discredit his love because I didn't want to find it in the water bottle he brought me every night before bed or the way he woke up a little early to get our baby so I could sleep.  

When you bring me a white mocha and sit next to me at church in the loft. 

When you bring me a white mocha and sit next to me at church in the loft. 

So, this year, I'm purposing to look beyond my love language. To notice and appreciate the love in the thousands of ways it's shown to me.

When you warm up my car before we leave without being asked. 

When you warm up my car before we leave without being asked. 

And I'm taking one photo of that "thing" that "act" everyday. Project:Love (Noticed). We're only six days in to the year and it's already changed me. I've found I'm actively looking for those loving acts and not getting so hung up on if he gave me eye contact while I was rehashing my day. 

When you buy groceries after you've worked all day.  

When you buy groceries after you've worked all day.  

 

I'm not going to tell him about it and hope to present him with a collage or slideshow of some sort of all 365 ways I noticed his love for me this year. 

 

I challenge you to join me in this. If you don't want to take photos, at least purpose to find ways to notice how much your spouse loves you beyond your love language. Don't get stuck there. You may not speak that language they are showing to you, but you can always learn to receive it as exactly what it is: an act of love. 

 

Heres to stronger marriages and love understood.