Your Child Isn't an Accessory


I'm not a perfect person, nor will I ever be. I'm not ever a perfect mom, nor will I ever be! That's not even the point of this blog. It's for encouragement and dialogue and a place for my sisters and I to stay connected since we're so far apart.  it's a place to share our failures and crazytimes.... 

But one thing in particular has been on my heart lately, that's been all over social media for a few years now seems like.  

Why has motherhood become a trend? Why should such a calling, something that requires all of you be something that you just pick and choose what you like about it. Your kids aren't accessories. They're not sitting in your closet waiting for you to give them attention. 

They're human beings! 

They shouldn't have to wonder if their parents love their jobs and night life more than they love them. They shouldn't be made to feel like a burden because they just aren't meeting your expectations. 

Some babies are in daycare 40+ hours a week, then given to a babysitter to be kept almost every night so the parents can go out! I don't understand. I am all about needing a break every now and then; but who's raising your kids here? It's not the parents in this situation. .. it's the daycare worker and the babysitters and the iPad no doubt. 

Your kids aren't a burden, and if you feel that way then maybe put yourself in their shoes for two seconds. Would you want a mom that never wanted to be around you? That always acted annoyed when you had a need or want? 

Your kids need you mom. You only get one chance at this. Let's do our best and be the ones that our kids know that we love them more than any human in this earth ever will. 

Attitude Check

Hello. It's Amber here. I've been really having to work on my attitude lately. Especially when it comes to the babies... I'm getting impatient from all of the lack of sleep. *sigh* Some days I'm soo done with being a mom. Don't get me wrong, I adore my kids and love them to death... but sometimes I just want to go back to college, drive around in my tiny civic with my friends, and just be carefee, not a worry in the world. I want my freedom back, I want to do what I WANT TO DO! Is that so much to ask?!

Yesterday at church the very last song really spoke to me. The bridge of the song says this, "My life is not my own, to You I belong, I give myself, I give myself to you". This song completely smacked me across the face. Why do I even think this life is my own? Why am I soo selfish? I was completely overwhelmed in that moment, asking God to take my bad attitude away and that I was sorry. Lord, I give myself to you!

Right now, in this season of my life, it's all about these two babies. They rely on me and Will for everything! For whatever reason, God gave us twins, I belong to the King, and when I'm serving my kids 24/7 ... without a single ounce of a break in site (or sleep)... I'm serving Jesus! I'm serving my Lord. What an honor. Why wouldn't I be happy at all times about that?

The Bible says in 1 John 4:19, that we love, because Christ first loved us. Jesus sacrificed it all for me... His unselfish love showered over me! This dirty, selfish rag.... if He can do that for me, I certainly can serve my children, my own flesh in blood, with overwhelming love, because Jesus first loved us!

I do believe that we are going to have bad days as moms, and we are going to be frustrated, and discouraged (and that's okay)... but I hope that I can remember what Jesus did for me more often throughout the day, so that I can continue this really awesome and difficult job as a mom with courage and perseverance.