Marriage

The Red Horse Inn

We just spent 48 hours in heaven.  

 

Not THE Heaven, but it sure felt like it was heavens cousin or something.

 

 

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This post will mostly be pictures, because, well, the photos speak for themselves.

There’s nothing to do, really, and that’s super appealing to a couple of thirty-somethings who are used to the houseful of noises that five kids, a puppy, and fourteen chickens make. 

The Inn includes six uniquely themed rooms, with breakfast included in each room, every morning.      The owner, Christian, is amazing. So down-to-earth, thorough, and pays attention to every detail. Such a sweet man. We felt like he was an old friend.       

The Inn includes six uniquely themed rooms, with breakfast included in each room, every morning. 

 

The owner, Christian, is amazing. So down-to-earth, thorough, and pays attention to every detail. Such a sweet man. We felt like he was an old friend. 

 

 

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The fence-lined drives up and down the pastures hills were beautiful. Over yonder there are some of the individual Cottages. There are six in total, three have Hot Tubs.  

 

Since my husband is a Hot Tub Lover like none other, I made sure I picked out the Cottage with not only the King Sized Bed that we are used to, but our personal hot tub.

 

I’d say that I’ve more than made up for our Disney World Honeymoon almost 13 years ago. Even though this little honeymoon was all of 48 hrs.long.  

 

My only regret is that life didn’t pause for us and we couldn’t stay forever.

 

 

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Our cozy cottage. We didn’t have to share. 

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The personal touches were so sweet. 

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Yes, in addition to flower petals, sparkling champagne and breakfast found ready stocked for both mornings, they also included Fireproof. And yes, we watched it for the second time. Loved the extra care they gave us.  

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The hot tubs are pretty much brand new, lovely, and have the coolest lights.  

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All of this was ours to enjoy. Complete privacy. I sacrificed the Mountain View’s for this hot tub and bigger bed, but some cottages have better views, no hot tub and a queen bed. Just depends on what you prefer. 

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Icy mornings.  

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Just a short two hours drive from Charlotte. Far enough away without being too far. Loved it.  

 

If you happen to visit  The Red Horse Inn, be sure to mention Mike and I referred you as they have a fantastic referral program! 

 

If you getaway here, we want to know about it! Comment below!  

A Kindness Story.

The kindness of this flower. 

 

It's vibrant hues, it's shape, it's beauty; draws in the spectators and it's admirers as they  inhale deeply with their senses. 

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What a beautiful reminder of living. To struggle, to grow, to bloom, to encourage. The cycle of living. The kindness of living.  

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The kindness that is time. The hours and seconds we've been gifted. The way we choose what to do with those seconds, the ways we choose to live or die with every tick and tock. The kindness to choose and the kindness to notice that both the choosing and the seconds are offerings to the great Time-Keeper.

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Realizing that the seconds used up in un-kindness is greater than the seconds spent being kind, is a bit terrifying. But what a very kind thing it is to keep offering us more of something that we usually waste. Like a toddler who asks for more cookies, but has yet to touch the ones on his plate. 

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And then there's the ultimate kindness: God. His kindness remains un-blemished. It makes bright pink Valentine's roses look like colorless paper mâché.  

  

  

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Aside from this greatest kindness, there is given to some of us, a kindness extended that we also do not deserve very much. 

 

Its a kindness found at the beginning, when God understood that, although He was more than enough to fulfill mans every desire and need, there maybe should be another companion to share in God's kindness with.  

 

And so marriage was born from the dust, and kindness could be shared.  

 

And so, darling, as we reflect on the love we have for one another today, let's never forget that it's because of kindness that there is even love at all.  

 

And the greatest kindness I've received, is sharing God's kindnesses with you. 

The When You Settle

Last night, my husband and I went to our local Salsarita's alone to get our favorite food: loaded nachos.  

 

After we told them to christen the mountains of deliciousness with extra guac, we sat down on the same side of the booth. 

 

"To have and to hold..." 

 

No, we aren't newlyweds. But we just love everything about being close to one another. It's better to share one side of the booth.  

 

We sat in silence for a few minutes. Because when you're that comfortable with someone, you don't feel the need to reach around in your brain trying to come up with anything to say.  

 

"...from this day forward..." 

 

My husband will tell you, he isn't eloquent with his words. He's a facts kinda communicator, as I imagine most men are. But, he looked me in the eyes last night and the words just flowed. I found myself writing them on my heart as he spoke. I didn't want to forget a word. 

 

"...in sickness and in health..." 

 

"I feel badly," he began. "You made it so easy for me. I had this beautiful, godly girl love me. When I finally matured enough to notice, I knew I could love you right back. And so I did. And you're more than I could've ever hoped to have searched for. But I never had to search because you were just always there. You love Jesus so much, you are good at so many things, you're just amazing and I am so grateful for you loving me in the first place. I love you so much, it's insane."

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I was beaming with pride that this man is "my person", my partner, my other half of myself. We've been loving each other for almost seventeen years now. After a year of overlapping trials, I know we've come out stronger and more able to choose love than ever before. 

 

"...for richer or poorer..." 

 

If you're looking toward marriage and "settling down", really evaluate how this person plays into your life.  

 

I fully believe God had our very best interests in mind when He encouraged us to stay away from marriage with "unbelievers".  How can a couple stay united and move towards Gods will if only one has made the sacrifice to walk with Christ? You may as well play a neverending game of tug-o-war. 

 

"...forsaking all others..." 

 

So what can you do to make sure you don't settle?  

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First of all, does the person encourage you to seek God first in all things? Does he or she move you towards Christ? If not, then you're settling. 

 

Does the person encourage, uplift, and speak kindly in love more than they discourage, begrudge, or belittle? If not, then you're settling.

 

Does the person only have eyes for you and see you as the most beautiful out of all others? If not, then you're settling.

 

Does the person enhance all of what makes you, you? (Your significant other should spend more time encouraging your strengths than trying to change your weaknesses) If not, then you're settling. 

 

Are you better off with them in your life (as a whole)? If not, then you're settling. 

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If you're already married, it's too late to ask yourself those questions. But it's not to late to purpose to resettle your relationship. To settle into a new foundation: 

            God as the center. 

            Your relationship with one another as               top priority among ALL other human relationships. 

             Moving forward in unity as a living example to the world that shines the love of Christ.  

 

"...until death us do part." 

 

So don't settle before you settle (down). And if you've already settled, dig a deeper foundation. One that withstands life's greatest storms, because those storms will come. Then, settle in with one another. Be weird and sit on the same side of the booth. And for goodness sakes, please get extra guacamole on your nachos. 

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